Pellau Magazine: Dating Three Guys to Find the One pt. 3

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Juggling multiple men until you find someone special and sparkly sounds reasonable to us. But is it genius—or dangerous?

BY CARSON GRIFFITH

Perfect, right? But dating coach David Wygant says dating three to find the one isn't always the best mantra, and can even be emotionally "dangerous."

"You can date as many people as you handle," he says. "But some people date around because they are needy."

Instead of worrying about how many dates you have and it being a balancing act, Wygant suggests women "date from feelings. Know what you want ahead of time so you aren't getting too invested. Do a reality check. You should have a personal list."

Ladies love lists, but Wygant says he's talking about a different kind. "Most women make a list of what they want the guy to be, not how they (personally) want to feel."

Somewhere between her wedding fantasies and serial dating, Emily was able to do some soul-searching. "I was getting such a severe rush of feelings for these guys, almost like I was scared of losing an opportunity to date them, that I never really took the time to think if I really liked them or not," she says. "When I was dating more people I could take a step back and think: 'Do I really like them? Do I want to be with them?' It felt good."

Apparently the answer was yes. Dating around led to the ultimate happy ending: Emily is now engaged to Adam. Do you think dating three to find the one is a good idea? And besides that, do you have the time, energy, and stamina, to date a trio of guys at once?

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