Pellau Magazine

by JORDAN HARBINGER

To approach women successfully, men must display confidence even if they have none. The easiest way to accomplish this is through a confident walk. Women respond to an assertive, masculine gait, which in turn, leaves men feeling more confident.



Additionally, a strong, self-assured walk keeps men safe. A recent study published in the Journal of Interpersonal Violence reported that how you carry yourself in public could make the difference when someone is deciding whether or not to target you.

A hardened criminal is skilled at determining who seems to be lacking in confidence and who looks self-assured. Self-assured people are less likely to be targeted. So, to help you get the ladies (and stave off criminals), check out these tips to walk boldly and get noticed.

Fake It Until You Make It
You don’t need to feel confident to look confident. In fact, if you can merely appear to be confident, plenty of people will perceive you to be confident, which will, in turn, leave you feeling confident. So, relax and let people believe you’re as confident as you should feel.

Pick a Role Model
Try to simply emulate a guy you feel encapsulates the utmost confidence. Think of Clint Eastwood, Christian Bale or any James Bond you’d care to name. Look at how they walk. With them in mind, go for a walk. Even just a lap around the block will give you a feel for how something so simple can make a big difference.

Practice Your Posture
Imagine that there’s a string pulling the crown of your head toward the sky and a giant magnet pulling your feet down into the earth. Feel your spine expand as your head goes toward the ceiling. Make sure that your chin is parallel to the ground and that your gaze is forward.

Close your eyes, remember what this feels like and pull it out whenever you need. Take another walk around the block and see how you feel.

Meet Her Gaze
Don’t look away or look down. Instead, meet a person’s gaze when in a conversation, then hold it, look up and to the side. If you need some training wheels at first, dark or reflective sunglasses can help to get you practice.

Bottom line: whether you’re pursuing a woman or just living your everyday life, confidence is key.

Jordan Harbinger is a Wall Street lawyer turned Social Dynamics expert and coach. He is the co-founder of The Art of Charm, a dating and relationships coaching company.  If you’re interested in The Art of Charm residential programs, apply for a strategy call with a coach.  You can also interact with Jordan on Facebook or Twitter.:
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