Pellau Magazine: 6 Signs You're Probably Getting Friend Zoned

6 Signs You're Probably Getting Friend Zoned

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Just when you thought things were going so well: BOOM. You're getting friend zoned. It happens to the best of us, but it can be confusing. How can you tell when it's happening to you? Make like our favorite Ace of Base song, and see the signs…
BY CARSON GRIFFITH

He Calls You…By Your
Last Name

Just like they did in softball. Or volleyball. Or whatever sport you played in high school. Unfortunately, the only place you're looking to score with this guy is in the bedroom. There are exceptions, of course, but in this writer's experience, not always a good sign.

Chosen Communication Method: Text

Not sexts. Just texts. It's a sin our generation shares (for a multitude of unknown reasons, we find it hard to actually—gasp!—talk on our telephones), but you barely know what his voice actually sounds like on the phone. Guess who else doesn't? His buddies. (Just sayin.')

He's a Grouper

He prefers to hang out mostly in groups? (Red flag! Red flag!) Sure, parties are fun. Meeting each other's friends is a blast. But if a guy likes you, is really into you, he wants to see you—just you. Which brings me to the next point...

Your 1:1 Time Is Nonsexual

Think bowling. Think sports bars. Think sorting laundry. Okay, don't really think sorting laundry, because I doubt any of you would put up with that (or so I'd hope), but you get the drift. Where's the heart-thumping romance? Oh, right. He's saving it for the girl he's not friend zoning!

He Talks About Hot Girls

We're starting to see a pattern here, yes? Give him a pass if he's mentioning his proclivity for Kate Upton (even we covet her boobs) but in general, if a guy wants in your pants, he knows better than to say anything about another girl in front of you.

He Hasn't Made a Move

It's the end of the third "date," and nada. This is open for some debate. We've had male friends who say it's off to the friend zone if a guy hasn't at least pecked you by round two, while some girlfriends warn not to swear him off 'til the fourth (sometimes even the fifth!) date, or you've made a move yourself. But, as a rule of thumb, I'd say the third date is a safe bet.

So, Why Are You in the (Friend) Zone?

Why would these men spend so much time pursuing us....just to be friends? While these guys might not feel a romantic connection, they definitely were wowed enough by some of your amazing qualities to want to keep you as a friend. You may be cool with having a fun, good-looking guy as a comrade. Or you can heed what my mother said when a guy I liked just wanted to be pals: "Well, just tell him you have too many friends already." Amen.

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