Pellau Magazine

Question from a fan: My husband and I are newlyweds, and he has discussed the idea of attending a swingers club with me. He says he only wants me, so I don't understand his fascination with this. How do I give him what he wants without hurting myself or our relationship in the process?--Desperately Confused



Wow, that is a fairly heavy sexual request considering the fact that you're newlyweds. That's like asking someone you've just met to watch your dog while you're out of town. Your rottweiler--for a year. Anyway, I'm all kinds of sex-positive, and there is nothing unusual or wrong with your husband's swinging fascination. However, you don't have to indulge his fantasy if you are unsure or uncomfortable. Take "giving him what he wants" out of the equation and concentrate on what you want. If you're totally not into something and you do it to please your partner, he won't enjoy it any more than you will.